Three Not So Little Words...
I hear it all the time and I am sure you have too. So many people say that they are afraid to get married because once you do everything changes, or the ones already married swear they never should have done it because it has changed everything. But, if you really stop and take a moment to think then you will see it isn’t really true. Let’s follow my train of thought shall we?
In the beginning of a new relationship things are great. You are a bundle of nerves yet excited about this new person that you just can’t wait to get to know. If you both feel a chemistry on the first date, then there are more dinner dates, movie dates, maybe you go out for drinks or dancing. Fueled by the nerves, the excitement and the attraction you begin to get swept away by spells of flirtation, stolen glances and passionate kisses. Girls get gifts of flowers and candy while guys get cards to remind them ‘Thinking Of You’. The time you’re apart you can’t wait to see each other again, but in the meantime there are hours of text messaging and phone conversations. The more dates you have the faster they seem to end and the longer saying goodbye at the end of the night becomes. As the time goes by everything seems to be so incredible and you know in your heart that you are starting to fall in love, this is where the trouble begins.
Those three little words that we all want to feel and everyone wants to hear… I love you. It seems that as soon as those words are said that’s when things start to change. It might not be right away, but if you really stop to think about as the weeks go by it changes. Dates will start to taper off until they stop because you are spending more and more time indoors between each other’s places. It doesn’t seem to matter because you are in love and are just happy to spend quality time together. Flowers and cards have disappeared and now the little fights start mostly over the stupidest things. Some relationships will end here, but some will go on.
Down on one knee, out comes the ring. There is a yes followed by tears, embraces and more passionate kisses… You are engaged. Things seem to be incredible once again due to the excitement of the engagement, until the new wears off again. Everything starts to go right back to the place it was headed before, no dates or flowers and more fighting. Some relationships will end here, but then some will go on.
The wedding day is here with bundles of nerves, joy, excitement, tears and love. The day couldn’t seem more perfect. But after the honeymoon is over, yup you guessed it, things go back down hill and worse than before. Of course some of these relationships also will end and some will go on, but most all of them will say everything was fine until they got married when in all actuality it really wasn’t. It all started with those three little words that we were blinded by, and chose to believe in while we ignored everything else.
