What Gives You The Right...

What gives an ex the idea that they have any right to dictate your love, your life or even your happiness when you are trying to move on with your life and you are truly happier than you have ever been? Allowing them to do so only fuels their verbal and mental abuse.

I am in a wonderful place right now. The man that has chosen me is amazing. He has opened my eyes to such a new outlook on life it’s as if I have been walking around this world with blinders on. I know that he loves me because they way he looks at me melts my heart like butter. He doesn’t try to change me, he understands me. He holds my hand and supports me which pushes me to want to be a better person. For the first time in my life I have been shown just what true unconditional love looks and feels like and he treats me far more incredible than I even imagined someone could.

But then here is where the home wreckers come in. You know, the ones that want everyone to be miserable because they themselves are miserable. Everyone I am sure has had that one person from their past that will try and try again to weasel their way back into your life. For most, if you ignore them they will go away. However there is those rare occasions where you couldn’t be that lucky.

Someone from my past just can’t grasp the move on concept of how things work. It was a miserable time in my life which I kind of knew then, but see oh so clearly now. I always try to see the good in everyone, and I always try to believe but I need to get it in my head that I cannot change the world although I am the type that would if I could. So perhaps it is partly my fault for allowing it to continue.

The ignore them and they will go away method is not working in this situation. Every few days I get verbally abusive and horrific messages. I of course try to laugh it off, but the fact is that nobody deserves to be talked to in that manner or have to endure such harsh name calling. I am a pretty easy going person and it takes quite a lot to offend me, but some of the messages even made my jaw drop. How is it that people think they can be so hateful that you will just drop everything and say Wow, I need to go back to that.

No matter how you look at it, this is a form of abuse. It is verbal, it is mental and in some cases even emotional abuse and it is not okay. People that act like that are sick, they need professional help. Especially once they have passed the hateful words and it escalates into threats for your safety and well being.

I want to wish so badly I had never met this person and I beat myself up for being so stupid in the first place. But I also believe that everything happens for a reason and that people are placed into your life at the moment they are supposed to be there. Whether it is to lean on, or to teach you some lesson, or in my case if I hadn’t met him then I definitely would have not met the wonderful man that blesses my life today.

What I am going through right now I view as punishment for my mistakes and I accept that. Thankfully the man in my life is very patient and understanding. This negative person can tucker himself out for all I care, he will NOT tear us apart, he will NOT win!!

After many coins tossed into fountains passed and many sleepless nights wishing on stars, my dream has finally come true. My life is on the path it is supposed to be on and it is a breathtaking journey. There are so many moments and memories waiting for me with a wonderful man that I have waited a lifetime for to hold my hand through all of it. I have never felt so fulfilled, so happy and so loved.

This is my life, my dream, my happiness and I deserve this!! Nobody and nothing is going to take this from me.

My rebuttal to the threat that I have just opened a door that I can’t close… Oh it’s CLOSED!!