Cupid Help...

It is another Valentine's Day alone for me, sadly I have gotten use to it. Since I have not blogged in a while, sorry, I had an idea. Why not give some helpful insight on a holiday tradition that most men hate so much?

Now I know that I cannot speak for all women, nor am I even going to try. In reality we all know that some women are high maintenance, gold diggers, just plain psychotic or even all three combined. I am not trying to be mean, I am just saying that I am sure you know at least one person like that, you might even be one yourself. So before I get hate mail, stop and think about it and don't hate me for the way you represent yourself.

I can however try to shed some light on understanding women like me. I have said it before and I will say it again, I am not about all that materilistic bullcrap. Of course it is a nice surprise once in a while, but you do not have to spend money on extravagant things to try and prove your love, love is priceless.

Things that mean the most to me are the small things, I always say the smallest things have the hugest impact. When I say small things, I mean little things that you normally wouldn't do. For example, getting her a card. Now gentlemen pay attention... Getting her a card doesn't have to be some pricey hallmark card like most of you think. Here is a secret... the Dollar Tree has cards two for one dollar! That means you can get two cards, give her one now and have another one to surprise her with a few weeks or so from now just to show her you are thinking of her. It is not what you spend on the card, it is the message it sends and what you write on the inside.

Women also love incense and candles. Pssst... gentlemen the Dollar Tree has those for one dollar too! Burn some incense, light some candles and run her a nice hot bath. Hell even slide into the bath with her, massage her shoulders or even wash her hair. Women love the feeling of their hair being washed by the one that they love, and it gains huge points in the romance department. Get out first and wrap her in a towel or robe as she gets out of the tub.

You can put in a movie that you both can agree on, men don't choose some karate kung fu movie where the lips don't match what they are saying, and ladies don't try for a 'chick flick' either... try to be neutral and if you have to, go with a comedy. Start the movie and cuddle with your woman. Let her put her head on your chest as you wrap your arms around her. Take some time to stroke her hair and kiss her forehead. Believe it or not, forehead kisses at least for me, are the most intimate. No matter what is happening, forehead kisses seem to comfort me and let me know that everything is going to be alright.

There are many other small things you can do. Breakfast in bed, open the door for her or pull out her chair. Walk by the lake at sunset, a blanket under the stars or even if you have children then let her sleep in one morning while you tend to the little ones. Everyone is different, so find what works for you for example, if she knows you absolutely hate poetry but you wrote her a poem, that is going to melt her heart because she knows you went out of your comfort zone to make her feel special.

A keepsake box will be a great idea as well. No guys, I don't mean your empty Nike box from the new shoes you just bought yourself... here honey a shoe box just for you... ummm NO! You could always make her a keepsake box... no do not wrap the Nike box... a nice box, show some effort. Also guys, Psssttt... Big Lots has some pretty nice keepsake boxes. I am the type of girl that saves everything for sentimental reasons. I save cards, notes, movie stubs, and if I am lucky enough to get roses I put one in the freezer in a baggie to keep. Anything from the first date through all the years, I save everything because it has special meaning. So if your girl likes to keep everything, a keepsake box to put it all in would be a perfect gift.

So now you see, it is not all about the money. It is simple things that you can do to make them feel special, loved and remind them how much they mean to you. Ladies, you can do that for your man too, they need reminded as well. It isn't about materialistic things, as I have said before those can get stolen, broken, lost etc. What matters in this journey is all the little moments, treasures and memories that you make along the way and nobody can steal those from you, they are in your heart forever. It is up to you if you want to make them cherished moments to remember, or bad ones.

To all the lucky couples celebrating this weekend, have a safe and Happy Valentine's Day!!